Hi Iyanda, please how do I overcome this problem where my husband finds it so hard to keep his JT in between his thighs? I mean he has lost control and is either forcing me to have sex with him a couple of times a day or he is threatening me with infidelity.
I knew before Dayo and I got married about a family history of abuse. Once before our marriage, he threatened to kill us both in his car while driving home from a friend’s party. I thought his behaviour would change once he moved away from his family, and for a very short time it did.
Before I gave birth to our first child, twice he again threatened to kill us in his car, and this really got me scared and worried. After I gave birth, his mental abuse of manipulation, questioning my fidelity and stalking me got worse. After the birth of our second child, his sexual addiction was ignited and he began a series of affairs. Those periods were really depressing for me and my children as we lived life not knowing what Dayo was up to the next time he got angry. Depression robbed me of my ready smile.
Despite living my life on a fast lane, I still loved Dayo and couldn’t imagine life without him by my side. I guess I was living dangerously because something within me kept telling me how foolish I was.
Dayo’s persistent physical abuse stopped the day he landed a heavy punch on me so hard I lost partial hearing in one ear and then he raped me. Afterward he felt remorseful and I was grateful for the cessation of physical abuse. However, things started degenerating as my kids started withdrawing from their father a couple of months after.
In the final futile weeks I remained with him, I narrowly stopped him from a sexual advance on our daughter, and watched in horror as he threw a knife at our son. That was the height of it as I couldn’t just seat back and watch my two children abused and then killed by a man who claimed he loved us, but couldn’t stop hurting us.
I have left the house for the time being, but he still sends his friends to me asking for forgiveness. I know I still love him, but something keeps telling me that I could get myself killed and lose my two kids.
His sexually addiction is my biggest worry because I fear he could infect me with sexually transmitted disease one of these days.
I am so confused now because though, I love him so much, I am scared of the consequences of giving him another chance…
Please I need help.