So, turning to the case of mother in-laws, I find it hard not to think negative. Over the years, we’ve seen and heard how mother in-laws make life difficult for their daughter in-laws and it isn’t an exaggeration.
Although this is quite opposite when the son has no money. More often than not, there’s peace where the son is poor. The girl enjoys the marriage and there’s less visit of mother in-laws.
But when there’s comfort, when there’s wealth, and especially when the daughter in-law is not quite well to do, it becomes a tug of war, because in most cases, the mother feels like the wife has come to take her sons wealth, has come to claim 100% of her son’s attention, I can testify jealousy is the top reason for the hatred of mother in-laws to their daughter in-laws.
The educated mother in-laws tends to be smarter and intelligently attacks, so it isn’t too obvious.
I didn’t want to face this, but it came to me. I had no job when my husband found me, I was finding myself, I was trying to build up a failing hair business. I was lookin for funds then, he came into my life and made a lot possible.
And of course, did a lot for my family, one of the reasons my mother in-laws wants to bite of my neck.
I know I’ll get to deal with this all the days of my life until she gives up, but I don’t care.
I remember the first time she visited, I and my husband were newly married and we were having the time of our lives together.
My mother in-law had come to inspect me very well.
The first incident was when I had a clash with Femi, and his mom, unsolicited, joined the the argument and started with “you can’t talk to my son like that.” I thought that was over, she continued with “Is this how you want to continue this marriage? I don’t think it’s possible.”
My husband saw where it was all leading, he had to end the argument called his mom to order.
It was the beginning of hell for me. I was quite careful not to get into the traps she laid for me by my mother in-law.
Another time was one morning, after we had our morning devotion, she told my husband and I to take our seats that she had something to say. We sat down. I was already wondering where I’d gone wrong.
She started the sermon with lessons on respect and depth with which it should be taken seriously.
She told us her presence in the house should tell us we can’t misbehave any more. The problem was that, while she was off to the kitchen to make something for herself last night, she heard sexual moans and it shouldn’t be repeated.
My husband automatically grew tired of his mom that day, and he began looking forward to when she’d leave for the village.
Mother in-laws should have in mind, that just like a daughter married their son, their daughter is also open for marriage.
Mothers are always after the daughter they’d personal bring to their son, any other choice seem to irritate them, which is very unfair to the man and to the innocent girl they tend to hurt.
