Sad as this story is, it is exact reflection of my kind of person. Dear readers, my name is Victoria, and I am a lady madly in love with a man that I met some four years ago while doing my Youth Service program in the North. Hassan and I have been going out for the past four years, and our plan is to settle down once things have settled. I can’t really say I don’t love Hassan as much as he loves me; but the truth of the matter is that he loves me even more than I do. Our plan is to get married, have some kids, and build a family that other people will be proud of.
The real problem I have is that I have also been dating three other guys the same time as Hassan. Sadly, he doesn’t know about this even though he has come in contact with one of them on several occasions. Hassan has actually come in contact with Femi who works in the same place as I do. Femi is that kind of guy who hardly takes no for an answer; so I would just say I accepted his love advances because I had no choice. One of the other two is my ex boyfriend who just refused to get off my back. I did love him then because he was my first love and was actually responsible for teaching most of the things I know today. I guess I am stuck with him because I kind of pity him; which is a disservice to me actually.
Finally the third one is not actually my lover, but a friend; but there is no doubt that I have a weakness for him. We have had sex a couple of times even as friends, and if the first time was a mistake; the other ones were certainly not because of the weakness I have whenever he is around me.
The truth of the matter is that it’s all about sex and not anything else; and that is as far as I am concerned. However, I am not sure the other three guys feel the same way because they seem to think there is a slight chance of something happening maybe in the future. So apart from Hassan, it’s all false hope as far as the three other guys are concerned.
The problem I have at the moment is that I never considered that one day I was going to be in a situation where confusion reigns as a result of not being able to get myself out of this kind of a problem. I do love Hassan with all my heart, but the problem is I have found myself in a situation where I can’t even walk out of the trap I have set for myself without knowing. I got myself into this mess because I just couldn’t say no to certain commitments.
I hope I don’t lose Hassan at the end of the day because I could kill myself. I don’t really want to lose my main guy because he has warned me on several occasions not to mess him up. He seems to trust me so much that he rarely suspects anything even when he sees me in company of other guys. I know you a lot of people reading this would probably be calling me names right now; but the truth of the matter is that I am not a slut but a very confused lady.
I hope my story gets published because it will give me an opportunity to get help before I lose my main guy.
Please give me some advice as soon as possible!
