I am Pastor, But My Wife’s Dressing Doesn’t Always Agree With My Beliefs
For those who don’t already know, being a man of God or pastor comes with a lot of burdens. A lot of people criticising us don’t even have the slightest idea of what we pass through; and I guess that is why you get to read those unbelievable stories in those mushroom newspapers and magazines most of the time. I keep wondering if I would ever spend my money buying those junk magazines if I wasn’t a pastor. Anyway that is not what this is about; it is actually about my wife and the way she dresses. I never actually thought a pastor like me would come publicly to seek for counselling or advice from, especially when you consider the fact that people always come to me for spiritual counselling.
Nike (my wife) is not one of those women who really care about what people have to say about the way she dresses. To her, she doesn’t owe anyone any explanation about how she dresses; and that is what hurts me seriously. How could the wife of a pastor who shepherds close to 300 congregations not care what people think or say about the kind of clothes she wears? How could Nike not be bothered about our kids following her footsteps, which doesn’t lead to heaven? How can she not be bothered about the impending doom that is soon to be unleashed upon the surface of the earth? The bible says that …I would rather not eat meat if that would lead to the fall of my brother…”
My wife breaks the law of decency on one hand, and keeps other laws on the other. She never jokes with her prayer time, her quiet time, personal bible sturdy time, and she even fast more than I do. However, it is so strange that a woman so vast with the bible could careless about how she dresses. My wife dresses seductively, exposes part of her cleavages, and is madly obsessed with short skirts. Now wait for this; my wife doesn’t even have single traditional attire. It doesn’t bother her because she doesn’t attend just any occasion.
Why am I brining this matter up on this blog? I am doing this because her refusal to change and embrace decency is way beyond my understanding. We have had several arguments and heated debates about this; but none of these has worked. Would you believe that a lot of my colleagues and family members have spoken to her about this; yet things remain the same?
I know this is not a matter to be brought to a public court, but the world has made my marriage a laughing stock. I feel guilty each time I mount the alter to teach or preach on certain topics in the bible. I mean how can a man whose wife doesn’t give a damn about maintaining high moral and Christian values teach on certain issues? I hate to say this, but it gladdens my heart each time my wife chooses to stay away from church; I always feel so confident on the alter during those times.
Dear readers, am I losing it? Divorce is completely out of it for me because that is what a few colleagues of mine have suggested. I am never going to divorce my wife; but I need urgent help because my kids are beginning to dress funny. I need help urgently! If you are a pastor out there, I need your prayers, advice, and suggestions on how to go about this problem of mine. I know that with God nothing shall be impossible! Serious advice is needed as soon as possible to save my marriage and ministry.
