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Getting Started in a Relationship

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we all go through different stages in relationships. the happy moment, the sad and the no vibe phase. the fact that you love some one so much and they suddenly just start going off your vibe.is heart breaking. the cheating and all the dramas that comes with it can make you not to trust any one again. some people decided not to even try dating again because they are scared of facing the things they faced in their previous relationship. what if you are single for a while , how to try to be in a relationship again .You’ve been single for a while, but now you’re ready to take a leap with someone. You’re going to need
learn how to be in a relationship again.
You see couples walking down the street or sitting at coffee shops all the time, but no one tells you how
to be in a relationship or how hard it is. It all looks so cheery and easy from the outside, but you see how
hard it really is when you’re in a relationship.
In a relationship, there are two people, and both have different needs and desires. As you can imagine,
it’s not easy always aligning those desires. But, I understand, you want to experience this for yourself, as
you should.
So, if you’re wondering how to be in a relationship, you came to the right place. Is it going to be a walk
in the park? No. But, if you use these tips, you’ll be able to have a healthy relationship with the person
you want to be with.A relationship isn’t about being together all the time and buying each other gifts;
it’s much more than that. And, to be honest, it really starts with you… not your partner. So, read through
these tips and see what things you should incorporate in your life so you can be in a relationship.
A little effort goes a long way.
#1 Slow it down. If you haven’t been in a relationship for a while, you may get a little excited and
rush through the process.
But there’s no need to rush through anything. Take your time. Go at a pace that’s comfortable for you. If
you’re not ready yet to be in a relationship, that’s okay. [Read: How fast is too fast in a relationship –
your guide to perfect timings]
#2 Do you want a relationship? Give yourself some time to think about whether a relationship is
something you want right now. Are you willing to invest your time in someone else? To spend your
personal time with them? Don’t go into something because you feel you must.
#3 Remember you’re not perfect either. When we’re going on dates and meeting people of interest, it’s
easy to pick out their flaws and highlight them. But remember you’re not perfect either. You’re flawed
just like the next person. So, show some compassion towards other people. [Read: How to be a better
person and grow into a kind human]
#4 It may take time for you to fall in love. Some people have immediate sparks with the person they
meet, and other people take time. If you want to be in a relationship, leave time for a connection to
develop and grow. If you’re enjoying your time with this person, continue to do so and see where it
goes.
#5 It’s healthy to argue. Just because you have a disagreement, doesn’t mean the relationship is
doomed to fail. You’re going to disagree with your partner at some point down the road. What’s
important is the communication that happens during and after the argument.
#6 Human flaws are not red flags. There’s a huge difference between annoying personality traits and red
flags. If this person chews with their mouth open, it doesn’t mean they’re abusive or disrespectful. Now,
if this person insults you on the first date or forces sex onto you, then those are red flags.
#7 Don’t throw yourself into the relationship. If you want to be in a relationship, the first thing you
should do is focus on yourself. Don’t throw yourself into something without making sure your needs are
met first. Practice self-care, and don’t be the person who gives up everything for a relationship.
#8 You may have single hoodnostalgia. When going into a relationship, there are some single-ish
activities you stop doing so frequently. You won’t go on dating websites or hook-up with people, and
that’s something you agreed upon once you entered the relationship. You may have moments where
you miss those times, and that’s normal.

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