In our days there are still a lot of people out there which are single because they haven’t got a relationship until now. One of the reasons why this happen is because men are still confusing about something; which is better to choose: one night stands or long term relationships? Both have advantages and disadvantages that’s why it is good to think better before to jump in a relationship or to start these ”one night stands”.
People who choose to have one- night- stands are not ready to have a relationship. They have fear of commitment and consider that living single can be pretty sweet; if you are unattached woman the best of all is that you can spend as much time as you want with your friends. That’s why they prefer a one night stand.
Let’s face it: a one night stand is someone you pick up in a bar, you don’t know her, take it to your place, and have a healthy sex and leaves in the next morning, nothing more. What do you hope to find in the arms of someone who doesn’t care about you? Instead, a long term relationship between a guy and a girl is based around strong mutual attraction on the physical, mental and possibly even spiritual levels; it involves the concept of love and desire to be with someone you care very highly about for a long time.
The guys who are looking just for hooking are afraid to enter in a relationship, afraid of intimacy, rejection or afraid of opening up to someone. So, the ones who never had a one night stand until now, will want to try it as a personal growth experience. Men love sex, especially when there are no strings attached, and sometimes the urge is irresistible. Sexual desire is far more than a simple physiological need. Experiencing a variety of people in a sexual context teaches you a variety of sexual techniques and ways of being.
One night stands can be fun, very sensual, and harmless and will definitely boost your ego: but you have to think about the consequences that may happen. One of the bad things that you can take sexually transmitted diseases, because you don’t know very well the girl, you don’t know with many guys was before you, so she might be infected. In a one night stand the partners become incredibly intimate at a very early stage so they become too vulnerable to each other before they know better.
For a long term relationship you must choose someone highly compatible in all areas, your partner should be your companion, friend and sex mate. For a one night stand you can choose a much greater variety of people, including women who are extremely sexually exciting, the decision can be made very quickly because anyway in the next day would matter anymore because she will leave for all.
Relationships require making a commitment and incurring obligations; you can’t chase after every opportunity if you want to built a relationship, you must have some patience. Even though, it can be very beautiful to have a relationship, because your partner cares of you and will be there for you when you have problems, will help you at need, you have always with whom to speak your problems. The one night stand girl will let you since the second day morning and will never care about you.
It is at your choice how you want to live your life, but remember that if you spend your energy looking for casual sex, there is a little time left over for developing a long term relationship; the rewards of investing time in a long time relationship are not immediate.