A lot has been said about pre-marital sex and how it has destroyed the love life of most spinsters. However, not everyone is in support of sex before marriage. Below is what one of our regular readers sent in on what she thinks about the idea.
My name is Lara, and having seen what most of my friends and colleagues went through in the hands of their partners, I have no choice but to keep my legs closed until the night of my wedding.
Tolu is the name of the man I intend to get married to, and he quite understands what my take on this is; even though he has some reservations about it. I am not a born again Christian, but one who strongly upholds the value of the African woman.
My sister dated this young, rich and handsome man during her days as a spinster. She practically worshipped him and was even short of turning herself into a kind of slave in order to make him happy. However, one thing was lacking in their relationship—sex. My sister would have none of that since our parents didn’t raise us that way. However, this didn’t stop her boyfriend from piling the pressure on her.
My sister held on to her believe that sex before marriage devalues a woman and makes her less attractive to her the man she would marry. She preached it, practised it, and held on to it as if her life depended on it. Then the woman in her caved in; yes, my sister gave in to her guy’s pressure to have sex before marriage because the guy threatened to dump her for another woman.
She was desperate because she viewed his threat as serious, thereby undervaluing herself and her worth. She felt she won’t be able to find someone else like him; and that is why most of (ladies) are dumb. A man threatens you and you fall for it.
Anyway she gave in to his request, she lost her virginity and voila! The guy did not only dump her after having a taste of her honey pot; he went ahead to marry another man. Four years of selflessly loving a man went down the drain because the man got what he wanted.
Dear readers, while not all men are like the one that dated and dumped my sister after using her; I have decided that any man who feels he can’t be patient enough until our wedding night is not worth it.
