Dilemma Of An Only Child Whose Parents Are About Going Divorcing
Divorce is the last thing you want to wish upon your enemy as it could have devastating effects on everyone involved, including the children. My friend Andrea is in a serious dilemma as I write this because his parents are about going their separate ways. The guy is the only child of the couple, and both are battling real hard to convince him to move in with either of them. The mum wants Andrea to move in with her, while the father too has been doing all he can to convince my friend to remain with him.
Things have gone really bad for my undergraduate friend, who has not had a moment of peace since he turned 14. Andrea’s parents have been having some little issues for a couple of years now that have now snowballed into threats of divorce. As a matter of fact, it is no longer a threat as a case to make both of them go their separate ways has already been filed in court; and it is only a matter of time before they are finally separated by a law court.
The sad part of it is that Andrea is in a serious dilemma, and does not know whether to move in with his mum or stay with his dad. He loves them both, and does not want to be seen as taking sides with his mum or dad. The die seems cast as Andrea doesn’t know what to do.
He is close to completing his university education, and might not need his father’s financial support that much; but the love that exists between father and son remains as strong as ever.
I have never seen a thing like this before all my life. How can I tell him to choose his mum ahead of his dad? It is beyond me because I also cannot tell or advice him to choose his dad ahead of his mum.
Andrea says he wants his parents to remain married; but it seems both of them have gone too far with their plans to get a divorce.
Please help with useful tips or advice on what the young man should do.
..Every parent should learn to train up their kids to trust ONLY in the Lord..even above us parents(because am one).We parents are humans,with our. Ever-present shortcomings and uncertainties.If Andrea’s parents had done this from when he was a kid,he would have found it easier to decide and begin to move on with his life without either of his parents.My advice to Andrea is to look to God who created him..give his life to Him..and begin to pray that his parents reconcile their differences soon,In the immediate(since he is almost concluding his University Education),he shouldd remain focused to finish well.He should conduct himself as though all is well.It will be difficult,but he should tell the Lord(is new found love),and I know He(God) will give me the strength of heart.It’s well with you Andrea..in jesus Name!
..And ad regards whose side should he follow..I’ll say both sides!.Andreas should not give his parents the benefit of the satisfaction of a painful and disappointing thing as divorce!.he should continue to court the two of them.He should stand his ground that he will NEVER choose either of them above the other.He should also continue to conduct himself so to both of them,in all conversation and sincererity..You see,by and by..and at the end it is Andreas that the Lord will use to teach both parents the usefulness and the joy of staying together..What they have refused to learn as adults,God will use their kid to teach them that lesson.
This is one of the most difficult situations a man or woman can find himself or herself. It is one situation not many can get out of that easily. If Andrea goes or chooses his father, then his mother gets angry and thinks he is an ingrate. The same situation could play out if he chooses his mother. That’s why I detest divorce, and believe in staying and sticking together no matter what. At this stage, I think Andrea should stay with his dad since he is now man enough to do certain things without his mum, but not man enough to take care of himself without his dad’s money. However, his mum and dad shouldn’t make things difficult for Andrea by pressuring him into making a decision that favours either of them.