CAN A TRUSTED MENTOR BECOME YOUR TORMENTOR? (2)

The story in the first part of this article is no way mine. Biko it’s a pure fiction story. Let’s continue our sweet discussion
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Dear mentees,
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Don’t let your mentors play the role of a boyfriend in your life. Learn to maintain and sustain the purpose of every relationship. Let your mentor be your mentor and let your boyfriend be your boyfriend. There should be a boundary to what you and your mentor discuss. You must have hired him to train you in one or two aspect of your life but, it would definitely not be all aspect. Learn to give him information about those parts he needs to know and nothing more. You should not spend more of your time with him. He should have something doing with his time too.
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Dear mentors,
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Please, if you know you can’t control or handle attraction don’t consider mentoring the opposite sex or better still don’t mentor at all. If you are always putting the backs of your mentees you are attracted to on bed, you are seriously planting banana peels on your way. Someday, those little mentees will want to avenge and you will see the stories of how you manipulated them trending on the internet.
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Please don’t play the role of a friend or a boyfriend in the life of your mentee. Let your role be the role of a mentor and let your discussions be what should be discussed between mentees and mentors. You have no business discussing all about her life with her. She must have hired you to mentor her in a particular aspect of her life. You don’t have to poke into other aspect. For crying out loud, you should not spend excessive and unnecessary time with her. That is how you begin to discuss matters that doesn’t concern the purpose of your mentoring relationship. I’m sure you have things to do with your time too. If you don’t then something is wrong.
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Many mentors and mentees are in this dirty trap today. Are you wondering why I have been emphasising on the kind of information mentors and mentees should share between themselves and the time they spend together? Stay tuned to my next post. I will talk more on that in my next post.
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Some people are not ripe to be a mentor and they will just be doing pass themselves. Don’t turn yourself to a tormentor in the life of your mentees.