Matters of the Heart

My Mother Blames Me for Every Misfortune That Has Befallen Her

BY IYANDA   •   May 31, 2013   •   2 MIN READ

Life for me is becoming unbearable and it’s worse because the place I’m supposed to find succor is where I am getting all the hit from.

We recently moved back from Namibia to Lagos. My father left us to get married to some other lady in Namibia and I heard that they are now in Greece.

Settling down here in Nigeria has been challenging for us (three kids and my mother). Having to find a good accommodation, securing a job and every other thing in general has been really tasking.

I understand the fact that my mother is doing the best for us, so I don’t bother to ask for anything other than what I need, and whenever I do that, it’s always curses, blaming me the job she lost while pregnant with me, even for the separation with my father, and everything she’s going through.

Whenever she does this I just excuse myself and withdraw into my shell but the effect it has on me leaves me devastated and broken.

I was able to make some money off hair making and got the entrance form to Lagos State University and when the results were released, I came out with a great result and subsequently granted admission, but I do not know how to tell her, because I know that what will follow whenever I tell her will be the story of my life.