Dear Readers: Should I Divorce My Wife?
As the S.U. (Scripture Union) president in the university, I had almost anything I wanted, including the girls, (don’t let your mind drift any further, I didn’t do any bad things).
I was very choosy with the kinds of ladies I had around me, because I knew the kind of partner I wanted to end up with. Growing up I had always wanted to keep myself until my wedding night and of course planned to get married to a virgin like myself.
I met “my wife” in school; she was the choir coordinator and as the S.U. president, we met at times for meetings and one thing led to the other and we fell in love. One of the times we discussed, she got to know my stance on getting married to a virgin, and I was more than delighted when she also said she always wanted to get married to a virgin, and I concluded that she was a virgin.
After a while we, got our parents involved and marriage was set. On the night of the 8th of March, after the whole ceremony, we were finally by ourselves, and “that time” came, lo and behold I found out that “my wife” wasn’t a virgin! God!
I couldn’t sleep that night, and kept wondering if she lied that she was a virgin just to be with me or she actually didn’t say she was a virgin, she only said she also wanted to get married to a virgin. At this point I am in a confused state, because I married her because I thought she was a virgin, now that I have discovered that she is not what should I do?
Should I go ahead and divorce my wife?
3 comments
Your main reason for marrying the lady is wrong, there are more salient reasons for getting married, she must be a virgin to me is most stupid and ignorant. Where is the place of love and companionship. Find out from her, her intention for lying. Even at that, don’t let that reason mar your happiness. There are other qualities that made you say, I do, work on those qualities and be happy. Divorce is never an option. I know you must feel bad but pls be happy and move on. I know she must be remorseful if its intentional, make your point and tutore her to be the wife of your dream. IT’S POSSIBLE.
she didnot lie to him she told him she wanted to marry a virgin yoo. why divorce her?u beyter love ur wife and move on
Don’t even think about that word DIVORCE. I guarantee you, you will likely regret it. I empathize with you on your feeling and you’ve got the right to be upset. Having said that,you must move on with your wife. Talk & PRAY about it. I’m sure she is sorry and apologetic(by the way, she didn’t lie to you).
You havew more to benefit from a loving and faithful wife than from a virgin you are not sure will begin to flirt after the marriage. What am I saying friend ? A bird in hand is worth 2 in the bush. A word is enough for the wise.
Dr. B