COVID 19 PARENTING.
As a parent, you want to do everything you can to protect your child. The coronavirus disease (COVID-19) pandemic has brought with it new challenges for families across the globe. This is an accurate, reliable information on the best ways to keep your family safe.
Something as big as a global pandemic is bound to trigger stress. And stress lowers immunity all on its own. When you add in lost sleep, that toll rises higher. Plus, stress and bad sleep both impair good decision-making (and when you’re a parent, decision-making is pretty much a daily job requirement).
Since we need as many clear-thinking people as possible to curtail the virus’s spread, and because your kids are looking to you for direction,
One thing parenting will teach you is to compartmentalize…
Kids can sense fear. If they ask questions or share that they’re scared and you tell them not to worry, it’s likely to backfire. Tell them the truth, which is that you don’t know exactly what’s going to happen, and even that you at times worry about it, but that you and their other care providers are doing all you can to keep them safe. And don’t forget the magic words: that you have lived through intense times before and that by taking good care of each other, together, you can do hard things.
Here are 5 ways to keep your coronavirus parenting in check.
1. PLAN A ROUTINE TOGETHER.
Try to establish a routine that factors in age-appropriate education programmes that can be followed online, on the television or through the radio. Also, factor in play time and time for reading. Use everyday activities as learning opportunities for your children. And don’t forget to come up with these plans together where possible.
Although establishing a routine and structure is critically important for children and young people, in these times you may notice your children need some level of flexibility. Switch up your activities. If your child is seeming restless and agitated when you’re trying to follow an online learning programme with them, flip to a more active option. Do not forget that planning and doing house chores together safely is great for development of fine and gross motor functions. Try and stay as attuned to their needs as possible.
2. HAVE OPEN CONVERSATION.
Encourage your children to ask questions and express their feelings with you. Remember that your child may have different reactions to stress, so be patient and understanding. Start by inviting your child to talk about the issue. Find out how much they already know and follow their lead. Discuss good hygiene practices. You can use everyday moments to reinforce the importance of things like regular and thorough hand washing. Make sure you are in a safe environment and allow your child to talk freely. Drawing, stories and other activities may help to open a discussion.
Try not to minimize or avoid their concerns. Be sure to acknowledge their feelings and assure them that it’s natural to feel scared about these things. Demonstrate that you’re listening by giving them your full attention, and make sure they understand that they can talk to you and their teachers whenever they like. Warn them about fake news and encourage them – and remind yourselves – to use trusted sources of information .
3. TAKE YOUR TIME.
Start with shorter learning sessions and make them progressively longer. If the goal is to have a 30- or 45-minute session, start with 10 minutes and build up from there. Within a session, combine online or screen time with offline activities or exercises.
4. PROTECT YOUR CHILDREN ONLINE.
Digital platforms provide an opportunity for children to keep learning, take part in play and keep in touch with their friends. But increased access online brings heightened risks for children’s safety, protection and privacy. Discuss the internet with your children so that they know how it works, what they need to be aware of, and what appropriate behavior looks like on the platforms they use, such as video calls.
Establish rules together about how, when and where the internet can be used. Set up parental controls on their devices to mitigate online risks, particularly for younger children. Identify appropriate online tools for recreation together – In case of cyber bullying or an incident of inappropriate content online, be familiar with school and other local reporting mechanisms, keeping numbers of support helplines and hotlines handy.
Don’t forget that there’s no need for children or young people to share pictures of themselves or other personal information to access digital learning.
5. STAY IN TOUCH WITH YOUR CHILDREN’S EDUCATION FACILITY.
Find out how to stay in touch with your children’s teacher or school to stay informed, ask questions and get more guidance. Parent groups or community groups can also be a good way to support each other with your home schooling.
Finally parents please Monitor your own behavior….
“Parents of course are anxious too and our kids will take emotional cues from us,“I would ask parents to do what they can to manage their anxiety in their own time and to not over share their fears with their children. That may mean containing emotions, which may be hard at times, especially if they’re feeling those emotions pretty intensely.”
Children rely on their parents to provide a sense of safety and security. “[It’s important that] we remember that they are the passengers in this and we are driving the car. And so even if we’re feeling anxious, we can’t let that get in the way of them feeling like safe passengers.”