MY PARENTS HATES HIM
I’m the only daughter of my parents and the last born. I was aware that three of my elder brothers got married to women from our hometown in Offa. In fact, my immediate brother’s wife’s family house is just a street away from our house. Despite that I knew all that, I never related it to a family norm.
I have been dating a guy for a few months now and we are getting serious about the relationship. Things are really going smooth between us and I feel confident that he is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. All I ever wanted was to get married to him.
There is one huge problem. My parents are completely not in support of the relationship. They haven’t met him one on one before but, I’ve briefed them about the kind of humble person he is. Yet, they hate him. I keep trying to get them to spend time with him and get to know him, but they refused. They completely wrote him off based on superficial judgements and they swore not to have anything to do with him.
I told my guy to also put in his effort to convince them. I told him to try his best to change their perception about him. He called my dad on phone and he out rightly despised him. he also called my mom who was calm with him. She explained to him that the situation was beyond her control.
One day, I angrily went to question my mom concerning the reason why they are treating me like that. How could they hate a man they have not even seen before so much like that? I started crying unto her. That was when my mom explained everything to me. She said my father has forbidden any of his children from marrying people from another tribe. He believes that they would not have a successful marriage based on the difference in their background.
It was then I realised why my brothers married people who live close to us. But, to me, it didn’t make any sense. How can a father decide who his children marry? I can’t afford to lose the man I love to this barbaric belief of my parents. But, my father has sworn not to bless any child who goes against his order. Where on earth will I start from?
I don’t want to loose the relationship and I also don’t want to move on without my parent’s blessing. What should I do?