Being in a relationship or marriage is one of the most beautiful things that can happen to you. It gives you so much happiness and gives you the assurance you need, especially when things are not going your way and you need that special person to share your problem with. However, did you know that lack of communication or some communication mistakes can tear your marriage or relationship apart?
Good communication is the foundation of a strong marriage and relationship. Many marriages and relationships could be saved if spouses improved the ways they communicate with each other.
It’s often the simplest bad habits that get couples into trouble. Once a marriage gets on a rough track, negativity grows. Issues are escalated as both spouses repeat their mistakes again and again. Take a look at the following communication mistakes and learn how they can be resolved.
Yelling At Your Spouse
Anger is one of the reasons a lot of people lose their jobs, and even more lose their partners. When you feel angry, there is a possibility that you could start raising your voice. Anger gives access to tension, and eventually heated argument with your spouse. As tension builds, you look for a way to release or express it. Yelling at your spouse becomes a quick and easy option, although it often causes more trouble than relief.
It may feel good to unleash your tension on your spouse when he or she upsets you, but the sense of satisfaction is often short-lived. Whatever you say in your angry state is likely to add fuel to the fire. Yelling enables you to unleash a lot of strong, negative emotion. No matter what you are trying to communicate at that point, the emotion is going to take centre stage.
Emotions are part of every relationship; but never let it out in moment of anger by yelling at your spouse…
Being In Competition With Your Spouse
While competition to impress and make each other happy in a relationship is not a bad idea; competing for the wrong reasons can breed tension and lead to communication breakdown. Never communicate the wrong message to your partner. Some ladies try to make their partner jealous by trying to hand around their ex or male friends too often in order to get back at him—this is a wrong way to communicate your anger at what he did to you.
You should also avoid unfruitful argument that can lead to more tension around the home. If you have more valid points to prove to your spouse, do it in a way that it won’t seem like you are trying to make him feel inferior.
Marriage Is About Us And Not About Me
Don’t ever communicate “it’s all about me” kind of message to your spouse. Marriage is a union between two people who have agreed to come together because they love and cherish each other. When you start making your partner feel like the bulk stops at your table all the time, then you are communicating the wrong message to that special person.